Reminder Alert!

One of the hardest parts of moving across the country with kids is having to find all new doctors.  After having a six year relationship with a pediatrician you love or finally finding a dentist that works well with your high anxiety child it makes switching to new doctors and trusting them so difficult. I’ve  been dreading continuing my search for doctors here in Arizona but as summer nears I knew I needed to bite the bullet and get these doctors appointments out of the way so in pure mom life fashion I decided to make my life a little crazy and book an eye apt for me and cleanings for the kids at the dentist back to back.

I started with my eye doctor appointment – to my surprise I loved the doctor! She was great at listening to my only concern with my contacts, which I can’t survive without, and was willing to give me options and let me try them out in the office.  At the end of trying out all of my options I narrowed it down to the 2 week contacts I’ve been wearing and having issues with in the mornings versus going to a daily contact that is super thin and comfortable.  With this decision would come the price tag – $500 (after insurance)  and I can tell you with all honesty I didn’t expect the dailies to cost so much but silly me it’s 730 contacts I need for a year! I left my appointment with a weeks worth of daily contacts and a decision to make.

Next on my mom duties was getting Bray from school rushing home to brush teeth and to get to the dentist. With plenty of time to spare we made it and the kids anxiety started to sore. To my surprise they did great and were super cooperative and the staff was awesome with them.  Then came the c word any mom dreads…cavity.  Ughh, my heart broke when I heard one child had perfect teeth and one didn’t. The dentist and I came up with a plan and I went to the front to find out what the damage would be…$500. Quickly the excitement from the idea of getting contacts that would rid me of my eye discomfort was shattered.  This is where the mom in me was triggered and obviously taking care of my kids comes way before something that I want or need.

Why is it so hard as a mom to do things for ourselves? Is this a normal reaction? I say yes. Being a mom – or dad – is a selfless job. From the moment you find out you’re expecting you start doing everything for your child. Here is my reminder to all the parents out there to take care of yourselves and to do things for yourself. It’s not always easy to feel justified but taking care of yourself gives you the ability to be the best parent you can be.  I still haven’t made my decision on contacts because I am lingering in the justification phase but what I do know is after one more dental appointment both of my kids are going to have sparkling white cavity free teeth 🙂

My challenge to you –> think of something you could do for yourself big or small and figure out a way to make it happen because you deserve it!

– Brittany

Mommy Guilt

Last night, well really early this morning, laying in bed trying to fall asleep mommy guilt started to set in. I had cleaned the house did all the laundry laid out their clothes for the next three days and even somehow managed to pack myself and although everything was done to make my trip away easier for them I still felt guilty. Why mommy guilt? Well for starters Makayla is 3 years old and I’m pretty sure our time apart has only ever consisted of one night away from each other. She’s my sidekick, my extra arms, sometimes a pain in my ass but nonetheless my baby. For Bray it’s different. We’ve spent time apart I think really just Jay and I’s honeymoon but he’s also older now and I know if he needs something or something is out of routine he won’t be afraid to voice it, a comforting feeling. But then there’s his soccer game, the first game of the new season this weekend and as the involved mom I always try to be my heart is breaking I can’t be there but again all of his stuff is laid out and the latest email about our weather conditions and instructions has been emailed to the family member caring for them so really everything is taken care of and his Grammy will be there too so his support system is in place.

So as I sit here and try to eat this oversized greasy slice of pizza waiting for my plane my heart still breaks. Being a stay at home mom is a blessing and a curse. It’s a blessing that I get to be with them everyday watching them grow, helping them when they need it and helping shape them into the little human beings they are becoming. A curse because being with them everyday is my place so when separation which should be extremely exciting for me because breaks like this are as often as seeing snow in the town we are moving to in Arizona I should be ecstatic. Not sure it helps that Bray followed me around all morning like a lost puppy instead of his usual routine of going downstairs and playing with his cars or on the iPad. 

Regardless of my feelings and anxiety about the kids I am excited to see my husband and the town I am uprooting mine and the kids lives to live in.

 So here’s to new adventures🍻


– Brittany