One of the hardest parts of moving across the country with kids is having to find all new doctors. After having a six year relationship with a pediatrician you love or finally finding a dentist that works well with your high anxiety child it makes switching to new doctors and trusting them so difficult. I’ve been dreading continuing my search for doctors here in Arizona but as summer nears I knew I needed to bite the bullet and get these doctors appointments out of the way so in pure mom life fashion I decided to make my life a little crazy and book an eye apt for me and cleanings for the kids at the dentist back to back.
I started with my eye doctor appointment – to my surprise I loved the doctor! She was great at listening to my only concern with my contacts, which I can’t survive without, and was willing to give me options and let me try them out in the office. At the end of trying out all of my options I narrowed it down to the 2 week contacts I’ve been wearing and having issues with in the mornings versus going to a daily contact that is super thin and comfortable. With this decision would come the price tag – $500 (after insurance) and I can tell you with all honesty I didn’t expect the dailies to cost so much but silly me it’s 730 contacts I need for a year! I left my appointment with a weeks worth of daily contacts and a decision to make.
Next on my mom duties was getting Bray from school rushing home to brush teeth and to get to the dentist. With plenty of time to spare we made it and the kids anxiety started to sore. To my surprise they did great and were super cooperative and the staff was awesome with them. Then came the c word any mom dreads…cavity. Ughh, my heart broke when I heard one child had perfect teeth and one didn’t. The dentist and I came up with a plan and I went to the front to find out what the damage would be…$500. Quickly the excitement from the idea of getting contacts that would rid me of my eye discomfort was shattered. This is where the mom in me was triggered and obviously taking care of my kids comes way before something that I want or need.
Why is it so hard as a mom to do things for ourselves? Is this a normal reaction? I say yes. Being a mom – or dad – is a selfless job. From the moment you find out you’re expecting you start doing everything for your child. Here is my reminder to all the parents out there to take care of yourselves and to do things for yourself. It’s not always easy to feel justified but taking care of yourself gives you the ability to be the best parent you can be. I still haven’t made my decision on contacts because I am lingering in the justification phase but what I do know is after one more dental appointment both of my kids are going to have sparkling white cavity free teeth 🙂
My challenge to you –> think of something you could do for yourself big or small and figure out a way to make it happen because you deserve it!
So there’s all these weird superstitions revolving the number 13, the most common one being when the 13th day of the month falls on a Friday, you know the dreaded Friday the 13th? The 13th of the month has a whole new meaning to our family significant to our new journey in Arizona. Yesterday being the 13th marked one month since the kids and I got on a plane and arrived in our new home but it also marked four months since my husband started his job here. It’s hard to believe we’ve only been together again as a family for a month but I guess no matter how long you are apart if you really are family it will always automatically be right again. Don’t mistake that for its been easy because transitions like this with young children are hard. It has been and is still at times hard for them to accept that I am not the only one that can help them. They relied soley on me for 95 days, give or take the few days daddy was home here and there, so the adjustment back to having two parents being able to do things for them is hard. The most difficult time for this is bedtime. We had such a routine about how shower, pjs, teeth brushing, story time, and getting tucked in went that trying to add in the second parent was something neither of them were willing to accept, if it wasn’t mommy doing it then it wasn’t happening. It seems that having daddy help certain nights doing certain things works for them so if thats what makes nighttime not so stressful we will go with it plus I love reading to them at night even if I know the books by heart.
For the first time on Wednesday I actually felt like this was home. Dying to know why? My daughter had dance class. Its kind of crazy right that after a month its taken a simple dance class to make Arizona feel even remotely close to home. Even after registering my son for kindergarten and my daughter for preschool and doing dance and football registration, having my grocery store and don’t forget Starbucks of choice and the Walmart I favor and I of course had to find the closest Michael’s which is conveniently smack dab between a Target and a Starbucks (thank you shopping Gods) it still just didn’t feel like home. Maybe because the last month has been filled with unpacking, having no schedule and not knowing anyone that the lack of emotional attachment to this new place we call home just wasn’t there. But Wednesday when I got her dressed for dance class and we got in the car and pulled into the studio parking lot and I put her ballet shoes on and she went into class like she knew exactly what she was doing did it finally seem real. She walked in with such confidence like this new studio and teacher and classmates weren’t going to stop her from doing what she loves and this is why having kids is so amazing. It took my 3 year old to show me that this new place doesn’t change anything. It doesn’t change the things we love or our ability to do them we just have to be open and adjust to this new adventure. Boy was she open, she kicked butt in class and I’m so proud and thankful for the confidence she is able to radiate, my star in the making. Of course the no family thing is hard but as we start planning our first trip home and we continue to FaceTime with those who are making the effort to stay active in our lives I know that we will see eachother again and be able to embrace the time we have together.
As we put this first month behind us we have so many things to look forward to. Football practice starts in nearly two weeks followed by school starting just a week later. We get to do fun things like school shop and open house night at school and get the family pictures taken I’ve been secretly dying for since we made the decision to move. I know as time goes on things will get easier and hopefully this new place we consider home will truly start to feel like it.
Stay confident and kick butt,