Mommy Guilt

Last night, well really early this morning, laying in bed trying to fall asleep mommy guilt started to set in. I had cleaned the house did all the laundry laid out their clothes for the next three days and even somehow managed to pack myself and although everything was done to make my trip away easier for them I still felt guilty. Why mommy guilt? Well for starters Makayla is 3 years old and I’m pretty sure our time apart has only ever consisted of one night away from each other. She’s my sidekick, my extra arms, sometimes a pain in my ass but nonetheless my baby. For Bray it’s different. We’ve spent time apart I think really just Jay and I’s honeymoon but he’s also older now and I know if he needs something or something is out of routine he won’t be afraid to voice it, a comforting feeling. But then there’s his soccer game, the first game of the new season this weekend and as the involved mom I always try to be my heart is breaking I can’t be there but again all of his stuff is laid out and the latest email about our weather conditions and instructions has been emailed to the family member caring for them so really everything is taken care of and his Grammy will be there too so his support system is in place.

So as I sit here and try to eat this oversized greasy slice of pizza waiting for my plane my heart still breaks. Being a stay at home mom is a blessing and a curse. It’s a blessing that I get to be with them everyday watching them grow, helping them when they need it and helping shape them into the little human beings they are becoming. A curse because being with them everyday is my place so when separation which should be extremely exciting for me because breaks like this are as often as seeing snow in the town we are moving to in Arizona I should be ecstatic. Not sure it helps that Bray followed me around all morning like a lost puppy instead of his usual routine of going downstairs and playing with his cars or on the iPad. 

Regardless of my feelings and anxiety about the kids I am excited to see my husband and the town I am uprooting mine and the kids lives to live in.

 So here’s to new adventures🍻


– Brittany

Should you join the planner community?

Let me start by saying regardless of your profession or how big your family is (aka how many kids you need to keep track of) there may be a form of planning for you. It’s a common misconception that because I’m a stay at home mom and don’t work a typical 9 to 5 job that I have no reason to plan the way I do. What could I possibly be keeping track of? Well here’s a list of the things I write in my planner:

  • My babysitting schedule
  • Kids school schedules
  • My daughters dance schedule
  • Dinner plan each night
  • TV show schedule
  • Fitbit steps
  • Household chores – vacuuming, laundry, dusting, clean bathrooms, etc.
  • Birthdays/anniversaries
  • Drs appointments
  • Typical family events
  • Sons sports schedules
  • Husbands coaching schedule
  • Basic list of tasks – phone calls that need to be made, things to be done on the computer or bills to mail
  • List of things we need at the store
  • Notes
  • Date nights!

For a stay at home mom I have plenty to keep track of! There are a lot of other ways to use a planner though. Some people use them for journaling while others use them as memory planners where they put in pictures and captions to remember their day. If you have fitness goals you might want to look into the specific fitness planner or there are free printables online that you could add to your everyday planner. Other people use them as faith planners where they keep track of bible studies and put the scriptures they may be specifically focusing on.  Then there are the students who use them for school and activities. Professionals even use them at work to keep track of tasks, deadlines and meetings. If you fall in one of these categories planning may be for you. Remember planning doesn’t need to be as creative or decorated as I make it. I choose to make my planner fun and set aside “me” time to decorate it but again that’s not necessary. 

Still not sure you should join the planner community? Think of the things you could keep track of and write them down. Remeber there are different size planners so if your list isn’t real long there can still be a planner for you! Just for reference I use a Big Happy Planner, there is also a Medium and a Mini which is great to keep in your bag while on the go!


Happy Planning!

          – Brittany

Why I Became a Planner

     Last July our schedule was crazy. The baseball team my husband coaches survived playoffs and extended their season by two weeks which meant an additional two weeks of snack stand food, driving, and sitting in the heat. By the time the season was over the list of things to do was growing. Next on the list was getting our son Brayden ready for 5 day preschool and figuring out how adding another babysitting family to the mix would work with the already 5 car seats in my SUV. Soccer registration was starting, my husband was deciding whether to coach or not, it was time to register my daughter for her first dance class and get her leotards, tights, and shoes and in the midst of it all we were planning a weekend trip to New York to visit family. Needless to say I was overwhelmed. I couldn’t get a grasp on everything going on.
Throughout the summer I had taken occasional trips to Michael’s and always stopped to check out these cute planners called Happy Planners. Not wanting to commit to the $35 expense I always just moved on and shopped for other stuff. Then one day I got an email that the planners were 40% off and I decided maybe this would make a difference in the stress I was having about our schedules and the mounting lists of things that needed to be done. That day I went to Michael’s bit the bullet and bought the big Happy Planner! Later I joined a Happy Planner group on Facebook and realized it was so much more then just writing my families schedule in the squares! Ladies made their planners beautiful with scrapbook paper, stickers, and washi tape, which I could never figure out the purpose of before! This would turn out to be the perfect creative outlet all while getting my family organized!
Later that weekend while we were in New York I spotted a Michael’s near the restaurant we were having dinner. After dinner we parted ways from our family members and we headed to Walmart to grab a few things for the night. Since we weren’t in a rush to get back to the hotel I expressed my desire to go to Michael’s (because now I knew I needed all the awesome extras) and before I knew it I was in the store picking out washi tape and stickers, my obsession had officially begun.
My Happy Planner has been a great outlet of stress and a perfect excuse for “me” time. Since my Planner purchase my family’s schedules have been organized and I feel like I have a good grasp on what I can accomplish in a week by seeing everything laid out. I know that planning may not be this awesome creative experience for everyone but if you’ve ever scrapbooked or just want to get your life more organized and under control some parts of Happy Planning may be for you and I hope throughout my blog you will find helpful tools and tips to get started!

Happy Planning!
Brittany

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My family on our New York trip at the Cornell Bird Sanctuary